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Well Meaning Words & Choices

“I thought your kids never get sick!?” were the words a well-meaning mom quipped to me as I was rushing late to pick up my oldest daughter from school.

Leading a group of moms to become empowered to make healthier choices for their kids, I suppose, puts flood lights on my health  and the health of my kids.

The truth is, nobody is ever 100% immune to sickness.
We live in a world that through many man-made factors, from chemicals to pollution, weakens our immune systems,
making us more susceptible to viruses and other invaders.

I must admit, the comment did send a wave of emotions to flow over me.
I felt a bit of shame and embarrassment that my kids were not model health warriors  walking around with an impenetrable force field against any sickness.

I thought about this for a few days, meanwhile still caring for a sick baby.

After pondering her comment and the pre-conceptions that perhaps made her think my kids never get sick, I realized the importance of sharing the struggles I have been through and that I continue to encounter and battle.

I spent almost 4 weeks of giving Sheridan’s body the tools and building blocks she needed naturally to fight off one of the nastiest viruses I’ve seen attack my kids’ bodies.  This included a horrible cough, cold, fevers , stomach pain  double ear infection, and 6 day bout of constipation! It was a rough month and many times I thought I would give in to giving antibiotics or other meds.
I have learned about homeopathy over the last 2 years and with the direction of my homeopath, I gave my little one the remedies to help her through the various symptoms that manifested throughout the virus running it’s course.
However, her cough persisted, keeping her up at night and she still had not had a bowel movement for 4 days.

So, I took her to see her an MD to cover all the bases.
She discovered that Sheridan had double ear infections.
Although the doctor gave me a prescription for antibiotics just in case I needed it,  she praised my efforts to support her body’s own innate ability to heal itself.
I took the prescription with the confidence that I would not need to fill it, as her body’s defense system was getting stronger by allowing it to stretch and push through the resistance of the virus.

Although I am thankful we have Dr’s and antibiotics for extreme cases and when absolutely necessary, I was relieved and beyond excited that her body THIS time got stronger and whole instead of weaker through needing drugs.

As a mom who did not understand this a few years ago, I didn’t have my own strength to trust the process of allowing my kids’ little bodies to fight off the bugs.
I rather almost begged doctors for meds to help shorten the time and relieve all their symptoms.
After all, we are all well-meaning moms, who do not want to see our kids suffer. It’s often scary to think we may not be doing everything medically available to cure them.

I went full speed ahead on the path of antibiotics, steroids, breathing treatments and anti-fever meds. However, it only led me to another illness soon after and set us on a sick-cycle that can cause any mom to feel at their wits end. The frustration finally led me to travel a different path.

I have learned and am still learning how to navigate the journey of health and sickness with my kids.

I’m getting stronger and more confident with each step forward and making choices that now support their bodies’ ability to overcome instead of being ones to succumb.

Today as I got my baby in her brand new “big girl” car seat, the joy I felt of seeing a clear nose and no cough was a “high” only a mom can understand!


As you forge ahead on your path of health with your kids, be encouraged to know that you haven’t done something “wrong” if they get sick!
And may you begin gathering an arsenal of remedies NOW  to be able to support them more naturally and have your well-meaning efforts work more effectively.


Dotty 🙂

Dotty Cropped2By: Dotty Hagmier, RN, BSN, CHC

As the president and founder of Moms in Charge and also a mom of three beautiful children, Dotty’s passion is to guide families into a place that will provide them with the best possible choices to raise healthy and vibrant children.

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Oh no!! I sent my daughter to school today in her uniform!  That’s normally perfect except somehow I didn’t get a reminder that today was “free dress”.

If you have kids that have to daily wear a school uniform, you know what a big deal it is to be able to wear their own sassy clothes.

But somehow amidst life’s hustle and bustle of keeping 3 kids healthy, organized, taken to and from activities, my moms in charge mission and constantly trying to find my “supermom” cape,  I didn’t get the schedule reminder.
So, off my nanny and I went to do the ever so familiar kid and accessory shuffle.

To and from the different schools and activities we went to make sure everyone had all items they needed for their parties and events of the day!

Thankfully, we have lots of reminders for today!

Red hearts, flowers, chocolates, signs, balloons and the parties all around. 

As I ran around in the usual busy-ness of my day, I realized how much I rely on these reminders to keep me from missing the important events on my schedule.

Unfortunately, many of us need this designated day, once a year in February, to remind us to tell the important people in our lives how much we love them.

But, just as fast as our days go by, so does the distance of time we actually take the time to appreciate the gift of the ones we love.

How many opportunities have we let go by without taking the time to give a smile, a hug, or tell someone how much they mean to us.

It may be in those rushed moments, we have missed out on giving someone just the encouragement they need to get through a difficult situation or the opportunity to build our relationships to be stronger instead of letting them continue to weaken through unspoken words or withholding our love.

I am thankful for the gentle reminders, emails, and calendars to keep us on track as we go about our busy lives.

The biggest reminder I have had today is the realization that I have needed a reminder to stop and appreciate those closest to me!

Thankfully, my daughter got her free dress outfit, I made it to 2 of the 3 parties, took my baby for a check-up and 
somehow managed all the other many details to do “life” today.

But from today the biggest reminder I heard loud and clear was the importance of making the heart of Valentine’s Day to beat steadily all year long. To give the gifts of love to not only my friends and family, but to all those I encounter.

May we all have this reminder set in the “email calendar ” of our hearts and minds this year.  😉



Dotty 🙂

Dotty Cropped2By: Dotty Hagmier, RN, BSN, CHC

As the president and founder of Moms in Charge and also a mom of three beautiful children, Dotty’s passion is to guide families into a place that will provide them with the best possible choices to raise healthy and vibrant children.

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Just Breathe

The lyrics of a song I found myself singing often a few years ago made famous by one of my heroes, Faith Hill  has taken on new meaning lately.

Back in the day when I used to belt out the tunes and hit the notes of ‘Just Breathe’ was a time when it meaning was tied to some romantic notion with a man of my dreams.

Singing karaoke or at parties pretending to be a version of Faith Hill was truly a fun and exciting time.

But, time has moved along, 3 kids have been added to the mix and just breathing has morphed into keeping myself calm through sleepless nights, terrible two’s and dealing with the many issues that arise between siblings.

Then I found yoga and learned even more about how just breathing helped on a deeper level with helping you achieve a better state of mind while working through various difficult poses and gaining more mind body connection.

Through my education as a health coach I have learned more techniques of how to actually breathe and calm the mind and spirit.

But the question has been a bit of a mystery of why the breath is such a key.

As I sat quietly by my husband’s hospital bed, while he was in pain and upset, my entire being seemed to be overcome by helpless frustration.

I was exhausted by a string of sleepless nights with sick kids, overwhelmed with wanting to perfect the message of health and wellness to moms and the looming responsibilities that seemed to swarm around my body. I began to feel the restriction of my throat as the stress of life seemed to take a firm grasp around my airway.

Although fully aware of all my abundant blessings and knowing how much better off I am than so many, the feelings had closed in on me like a walls of my own personal cell.

My husband closed his eyes as he tried to relax all the while, my chest felt frozen.

At that moment I heard a lady walk quietly up to my side. She whispered “Oh, he’s awake.” as my husband looked up into her kind face.  She walked over to his side and gently touched his arm and asked if she could pray with him. Being the spiritual man he is, he said “Um my wife will do that.”  She quietly came and took my hands and said, “We are going to pray together, ok?”

As she prayed, I felt the grasp of fear and anxiety begin to loosen its grip on my neck as she she began to pray about breathing.

I’m actually not certain exactly what she said. All I remember is I began to breathe.  It was as if God knew at that exact moment what I needed and sent an angel to help me breathe.

After she said “Amen.”, she looked at me with the kindest eyes and said “Just Breathe.”

Suddenly those two words that I had sung so many times became alive and penetrated past my head into my spirit.

The next thing she said took me to a place I hope to always remain.

It was a place of hope and truth.  She shared that when we breathe it was breathing in God and His Presence if we would allow it.

I realized what I had somehow missed with my breaths, that I had missed the infinite wisdom of breathing.

Our breath is the life-force. It’s what created us. It’s what continues to create us, but only if we are intentional about it and allow the changes to occur.

As I took those breaths with her, my situation remained the same, but I began to transform and was able to manage the things that were holding me down and was then able to deal with the situations that I was facing.

Taking the time today to breathe in life into whatever situation you find yourself in today can take you past the realm of your physical limitations and into a place of finding hope and peace.
Allow His breath to be yours today and feel your freedom.



Dotty 🙂

Dotty Cropped2By: Dotty Hagmier, RN, BSN, CHC

As the president and founder of Moms in Charge and also a mom of three beautiful children, Dotty’s passion is to  guide families into a place that will provide them with the best possible choices to raise healthy and vibrant children.

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